FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS, COSTS, etc...
1. How much of an honorarium should we bring?
$120 for the ceremony ($200 with a rehearsal) is the normal honorarium if the weddng is between November and February.
$140 for the ceremony ($220 with a rehearsal) is the normal honorarium if the wedding is between March and October.
The honorariums remain the same no matter what days of the week. I'm available 24/7.
If you want to just stop by Steve's house (located on Loxley, convenient to I-10 and with a nice little gazebo) because the Probate Judge is not available, the honorarium is usually $75.00.
I'm happy with checks, cash or credit cards. No need to send me anything before the wedding. I don't require deposits. You can wait until the wedding day.
I do ask that you have the honorarium and license ready for me when I arrive. After the wedding, you will be busy with pictures, parties and hugs. I just hate to interrupt and ask. Thanks.
Yes, I know I am unique (i.e., inexpensive) among wedding ministers along the Gulf Coast. Please don't misunderstand, I do this because I love doing this. I don't do it just because people are generous enough to provide the honorarium, which pretty much covers my expenses.
Over the years, no one has ever complained about my services. I am constantly being referred to brides by their friends and family or wedding planners, photographers, etc... I've performed ceremonies in cathedrals, historic homes around Mobile and beach homes along the Gulf. Some of the weddings cost thousands, even tens of thousands. My little honorariums never change. I try not to add to the financial burdens of newlyweds.
You see, this is not how I make my living anymore. I am retired. (Which means I work for my wife.) I love being able to help people who are looking for a sweet, meaningful, legal ceremony without any of the typical headaches. Some ministers don't marry people they don't know or those who are embarking on second marriages. Some sell "wedding packages" that are expensive. Judges are often hurried in an office building.
The most special ceremony of your relationship should be handled by someone with experience, tact, compassion and an above average understanding of romance. (But, since my sweet wife isn't available, you'll just have to ask me.)
2. Do you make the ceremony "feel" religious so as to accommodate various religious/non-religious relatives? Yes. My ceremonies can reflect the wisdom and poetry found in many religions. It is my position that YOUR religious/non-religious beliefs are YOURS, not mine. In fact, I very often perform ceremonies with no reference to religions at all.
3. How long will the ceremony last? From the moment you step up to me until I pronounce you married, usually about 15-20 minutes. I try not to hurry through so as to lose the moment or make it seem rushed, but also keep in mind the heat, distractions, age of wedding guests, etc...
4. Does my fiance need to memorize anything? No. Everything you need to say is "repeat after me" unless you write your own vows.
5. Can we include our children in the ceremony? Yes! I even have vows for new parents if you like.
6. How do you feel about alcohol at the wedding/reception? No problem. Have fun. Be responsible!
7. Can my mother call you? She is really freaking out because I found a minister on the Internet. Of course she can. I would be happy to do whatever I can to help her feel better about it.
8. How do you like to be addressed, Dr., Brother, Pastor, Rev. or by your first name? My wife and children will tell you that I like to be called "O Great Ruler of the Household and Master of the Barbeque Grill", but, if that is as "inconvenient" to you as it seems to be to them, just Steve will be fine, PLEASE!
9. Do we need a permit for the beach? Not always. Don't rush to buy one until you talk to me. If you do need a permit, they are $50.00. Click HERE for guidelines and information.
10. Will you travel to my wedding? Yes, I will travel anywhere in the United States or Caribbean. However, travel expenses will have to be discussed if you need me outside of Mobile or Baldwin Counties in Alabama or Escambia County in Florida. If you want me in Hawaii, please call me soon! P.S., my wife will want to come, too.
Whatever your circumstances, I can help.
I live in a "no judgment zone!"
Just call me! 251-709-5007